There is no better way for one to become frustrated, than to share your opinion amongst other Christians. Not only do we all believe we are right about our stance on certain biblical issues, but we all think that anyone who is against us is persecuting us. It isn’t until we consider our fallibility that we can begin to change. I wasn’t always a follower of a reformed theology, but more and more I’ve become aligned with that way of thought.
I don’t really know where today’s frustration comes from but I don’t want to sit here and baby anyone about our walk… as a Christian. Being a follower of Christ is hard, there is no debate about it. There are some things that you must choose to do differently if you want to continue to grow in Him and be closer in your relationship with Him. Salvation aside (I don’t want to bring up conversation about keeping or staying saved), there are things that will further help you along in your Christian walk. There is an amount of devotion, faith and discipline that you need to practice if you want to break your chains and walk closer in the footsteps of Jesus.
I’m not trying to be legalistic and I am furthermore not trying to give greater value to certain sins as I believe that sin is sin and they all have their earthly consequences. Even down to some of the debatable topics out there I would consider myself pretty liberal in my walk with God. I understand that grace saved me and that there are grey areas that probably aren’t great for you, but won’t cause you to fall into sin either…i.e. tattoos, consuming alcohol…
There are things however that I think are pretty serious in the sense of how they effect you in your walk. Sex outside of the confines of marriage (to include adultery). I get it, sex is awesome and it’s fun and it’s on our minds a lot, for men especially, but it is detrimental for couples who are living in Christ but not married. Too often we forget about the spiritual side of life. Call it spiritual warfare or whatever you like, but we tend to forget that there are spiritual consequences to our physical actions and physical consequences to our spiritual actions.
“But I love him/her, and we are engaged or we are about to be engaged”. There is a big difference between me saying I am a millionaire and I am about to be a millionaire. You can spend 100,000 dollars as a millionaire, but you can’t spend that 100,000 dollars while you are waiting to get that million. You would go into a deep debt.
You will go into a spiritual debt.
The divorce rate in the US is ridiculous, sex is considered casual and even mandatory in today’s relationships. Not saying that these two are completely related, but I would be willing to bet money on there being some relation.
Anyway, look, I am secure enough in my relationship with Jesus to say that if you don’t want to do what is good and just and right don’t lump yourself into the same category as me. Don’t tell people you are following Christ and everything is great when it isn’t. If you are struggling, I get that, I struggle too and I will tell people that I follow Christ but suck at doing life right. Let’s show a little initiative to our Father and creator, He only made a way for us to have a relationship with Him.
Don’t be the reason that others refuse to follow Jesus. That has always been my fear as a Christian. I never wanted to be one of the hypocrites that had kept me away from Jesus for so long. I have found that through transparency of my flaws, I have been able to walk in truth around others without raising someone’s expectations to unrealistic standards.