My wife and I are both believers. Our entire marriage is based on the fact that we both love Jesus first and are devoted to life-long service. God is the glue that holds us together, the very reason we are together in the first place. We both recognize that we are not each other’s Holy Spirit, that it’s imperative for us both to have a personal relationship with God. We will each be held accountable to God and judged based on the actions, thoughts and words that came from us.
Realizing this, came to a head during our evening devotionals with our children. Our oldest is 13 and at the very critical age of coming into his own. He is beginning to think for himself, ask questions and form his own opinions. His thoughts are provoking, but our answers are not always enough to satisfy his curiosity. I can say some of the same things to another adult and due to maturity and a experiential knowledge of God, they would “get it”. Not so with our son.
It came down to the fact that just because Mom and Dad love Jesus, doesn’t mean he is saved. Seeing his face change allowed me to know that it made some sense to him. We explained to him that he lives in a house where Jesus is glorified constantly, but that didn’t guarantee his own salvation. We then had to explain to him that saying a prayer at age 4 and being baptized didn’t guarantee anything for him either.
This may seem like a normal conversation that believing parents would have with their children, however experience has shown me that more children are raised in an environment that misleads them to think they are saved, when in fact they are not.
I cannot count on my hands and feet the amount of times I have heard someone say that they “grew up Christian”. I am not even sure what that phrase really means. Does it mean that they grew up in a house where they went to church? Does it mean that they went to youth camp one time and had an emotional experience? Does it mean that Mom and Dad told them they were Christian, so they just assumed they were? There are far too many problems with this line of thinking.
The issue isn’t even with the children, it’s with their own parents where the delusion comes in. Mom and Dad don’t even know enough about their own religious convictions to tell their kids. Maybe their own parents didn’t know and just assumed. It all snowballed from there to a point where what they even perceive as a “religion” is not that at all. It’s a watered down variation of what someone had passed down to them.
In order for Christianity to be a staple institution in our homes and the homes of generations to come, we must live glorify God in every facet of our family life.